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Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

proud military woman — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 09:29:01 -0000

Yikes

Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

proud military woman — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 09:28:27 -0000

Just don't place on face book, with public viewing

Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

proud military woman — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 09:27:19 -0000

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Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

proud military woman — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 09:23:18 -0000

remember to support male spouses

Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

proud military woman — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 09:20:39 -0000

or husband/boyfriend. There are military women

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Paige88 — Mon, 19 Nov 2012 18:04:44 -0000

Okay, I have a dilemma. I am a newly married Army wife and I am a Registered Nurse. I have declared North Carolina as my primary state of residency considering thats where I just moved from to Virginia because my husband is stationed in Virginia. I hold a multistate NC nursing license. I'm having a problem deciding whether to keep my North Carolina license and work in Virginia under my multistate compact privileges or whether to get a new drivers license, and apply for endorsement for licensure in virginia for a virginia nursing license. I'm confused because I want to advance my career and get a BSN but don't know where to attend school because of all this military stuff. Like do I pick a North Carolina School or a Virginia School because I don't want to be charged out of state fees. This is so confusing. Can anyone that's been in my position help?

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Melissa C. — Sun, 18 Nov 2012 23:10:23 -0000

Thanks for such a wonderful and fun contest! Even if I do not win, I found some AWESOME ideas for stuff to send to my hubby!! :)

Re: I’m a New Military Spouse, Now What?

Jesykah Merie Beck-Warner — Fri, 16 Nov 2012 15:55:15 -0000

I am married and my husband signed up for the army when I was pregnant with my second. But my first daughter who isn't his, has to wait until she was adopted by him to get any benefits. The only one he can put on there is our daughter we had together. So you have to wait till after the adoption.

Re: 5 Things to Know Before Attending a Military Ball

Ashley — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 14:31:47 -0000

I attended my first ball last saturday with my boyfriend and I can tell you right now it was pretty fun. They had the opening ceremony which of course can be a bit yawn inducing for some people, especially late in the evening when everyone just wants dinner to arrive. Then the band played some patriotic songs and after about 2 of those some asian guy came out and sang gangnam style and then the Marine Corps Band started playing/singing thunderstruck. then afterwards there was dinner and whatnot and then the DJ played music and dancing and fun was had. So for me and most other people I can assure you they take no "fun" out of anything unless your idea of fun is showing up at a black tie event looking like you just stepped out of the club. If you can't handle following a few simple little forms of ettiquette then please by all means don't go.

Re: 5 Things to Know Before Attending a Military Ball

Suzanne — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 01:38:47 -0000

Or wife in the military. No lady wishes to be embarrassed by her husband turning up in a gown. Not funny.

Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

DeaqonJames.Com — Sun, 11 Nov 2012 15:04:37 -0000

WOW! There are so many pathetic people here.
1st off you people need to understand. Your spouse/significant other does not belong to YOU! They belong to the U.S. Government.

The wear of the uniform represents something bigger than you two will EVER be. YOU as a spouse is replaceable. Being a member of the U.S. Military is something you ARE! The uniform belongs to each respective branch, and it is well within their power to dictate what one does while wearing their uniform.

Your spouse/SO is representing something much bigger than your relationship while in that uniform. Even retail outlets have rules about behavior while in uniform. Wouldn't you find it odd to walk into your local target and see a staff member having a make-out session?

Your military spouse/SO is a reflection of the branch they serve and that branch and all those who wore the uniform before them are to be respected at all costs! These rules prevent people from making the branch look bad.

I am appalled though unfortunately not shocked at the lack of respect people have these days. As well as the disregard for any and all rules. It is so sad that people have become so self centered that they would think that they and their relationship is greater than that of the commitment and oath that member of the service made.

Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

proudgirlfriend313 — Thu, 08 Nov 2012 22:23:57 -0000

Agreed, show some reservation, if you are a proud girlfriend/wife prove it. By doing that it makes him proud

Re: I’m a New Military Spouse, Now What?

Jenna — Thu, 08 Nov 2012 00:43:44 -0000

Complicated question...I will be getting married in March of 2013. He is in the army and he also plans to adopt my 3 year old son, but he wont be able to do that until 6 months into the marriage. Right now my son is currently covered under WI badger care insurance. After we get married we plan on moving to where he is, but I guess my question is, will my son qualify for any military assistance or will we have to wait for the adoption to be completed?

Re: I’m a New Military Spouse, Now What?

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Re: 11 “In Uniform” Rules Every Military Spouse Should Know

kahu — Sun, 04 Nov 2012 18:50:15 -0000

Just learn the rules ask your military person about rules you should follow. And when you've learned them follow them or don't show up. I miss my military man deeply, I know I will have self control when I see him. I usually let him make the first move, when it comes to physical contact, and he usually reminds me by keeping on the side I need to be on when we're walking. I'm so glad to see him, who needs a phone I anticipate hearing what he has to say. Respect goes both ways work together to rise above ignorance.

Re: 4 Clues to Cracking the Military Ball Dress Code

Shellie8 — Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:18:33 -0000

This will be my first military ball and I was wondering what you all thought about my choice of dress... More specifically the color and length. I have a floor length gown that is a rosey-pink color which I love.. on the other hand, I have a shorter knee length dress in red but not really a deep red. I also have a plain black dress that is too short and goes to my ankles that I am sure I could easily hem. I asked my husband what he thought and he doesn't really seem to care he just says he will love me in anything I wear. can someone help me out with some advice please?

Re: I’m a New Military Spouse, Now What?

Amanda Crippes — Tue, 30 Oct 2012 22:05:00 -0000

Be forewarned. People who are veterans themselves and marrying back into the service. When you are signing up for medical, make sure they change you in the system as a dependent. I had the issue where they added me to my husbands information, but they also left me as my own sponsor, so I was popping up twice in the system. Caused quite a few problems and they now had to contact tech support to fix it.

Re: 5 Things to Know Before Attending a Military Ball

AbsolutelyDC — Sun, 28 Oct 2012 22:01:21 -0000

I have been to several military balls. With the help of a few girlfriends, we put together a little guide of what to wear, what not to wear, and what to expect. Hope this helps!!!
http://www.absolutelydc.com...

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Re: 5 Things to Know Before Attending a Military Ball

Kate — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 18:14:31 -0000

No, it is not inappropriate at all for a girlfriend/boyfriend, fiancee/fiance to attend a ball. Many senior service members are married, hence you will see the word spouse most often. My husband invited me to a regimental officers' ball when I was his girlfriend, and we also attended a Christmas Ball together. It is perfectly appropriate. One thing that is completely missing from the list above, but will make you stand out in a very favourable way is to keep your shoulders covered during dinner. In the British military this rule is still very well known, but it also applies to the US military. The older wives of high-ranking officers will know this, and will very much appreciate it if you follow proper protocol. The invited admiral's wife, to whom I was introduced,said much to my embarrassment at the time (husband and I had just begun dating), that I would make the perfect military wife! I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that I was a British officer's daughter, and simply knew the rules of the game.

Re: 5 Things to Know Before Attending a Military Ball

Kate — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 12:32:16 -0000

Sarah,
It's certainly true that a tea-length dress is perfectly acceptable for some black tie functions (semi-formal in traditional etiquette), but for a white tie ball the dress must always be long. Have you ever been to the Officers' Ball in Vienna at the Hofburg Palace? It attracts military officers from many different countries, and as the daughter of a British Royal Dragoon Guards officer, it was where I had my official debut into society. My husband is a US Navy officer, and we are once again attending the ball this coming January. I have personally seen people turned away for not being properly dressed, and properly includes a floor-length evening or ball gown for ladies.

Re: 5 Things to Know Before Attending a Military Ball

Kate — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 12:20:33 -0000

Dear Ms. Bruns,

I generally agree with the tone and content of your article, and unlike a previous poster, find it perfectly applicable to the 21st century. Manners never go out of style. Having said that, I must protest that proper etiquette requires a lady to remove her evening gloves when shaking hands. I am one of the few ladies left who still wears silk-lined kid leather gloves with mousquetaire openings, and I can assure that the tight fit, which is intentional, makes it impractical if not downright impossible to remove one's gloves every time you shake hands. Gloves are removed for eating and drinking when sitting at a table, but may remain on for a brief toast or a sip of champaign -- manners are not meant to be unreasonable.
I spent 12 weeks at finishing school in Switzerland, surrounded by Debrett's, the UK's premier etiquette authority, was a debutante in Vienna (the world capital of formal balls with an estimated 400+ annual events) under the tutelage of dancing and etiquette expert Mr Elmayer, and own several Miss Manners books purchased in the US, and all of them are in agreement that gloves stay on in receiving lines.
Granted, military etiquette is different, but it only applies to women and men in uniform, and not to civilian ladies. Gentlemen, on the other hand, are required to remove their gloves when shaking a lady's hand. It doesn't matter if they are civilian or military. Frankly, I think most people no longer know proper glove etiquette, because they are so rarely worn. To make matters even more complicated, a lady would remove her right glove a formal daytime reception when walking through a receiving line. However, proper day gloves are short (wrist-length or middle of the lower arm) and can be easily removed.
I included some links to prove my point. The first image shows JFK, Mrs Kennedy and several high-ranking military officers (US Navy) in formal dress, and the ladies clearly wear gloves while shaking hands: http://25.media.tumblr.com/...
The Kennedy White House would not commit a social faux pas, so you can trust that it's proper.
Here is a photo of Queen Elizabeth II. clearly wearing gloves in a receiving line. Again, I think she ought to know proper etiquette having grown up surrounded by it: http://protocol411.com/wp-c...